Man of the Household

Be a man in your household.

Cultural pressures and an anti-family economy, coupled with accusations of toxic masculinity, make us uncertain of how to be a man in our household. We can feel frustrated and paralyzed. Join Man of the Household in seeking the reality of manhood, and find the confidence to live out the gift of being a man in your household.

New Online Course! 

Man of the Household 

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Why take this course:

As natural as it is, being man of the household does not come naturally, especially today. We need to be intentional and take specific steps to become the man we want to be. The course goal is this: to be the man of my household, a true husband and father, taking first responsibility for crafting the good life in my home, and so fulfilling what my nature calls me to, my heart longs for, and my loved ones need and deserve.

To whatever extent we become that man, it is its own reward. Yet also our wife, our children, our friends, and all our loved ones will be grateful and reap the fruits of our efforts. For generations to come.

If you are interested, I would love for you to join me in this course.

This course has four modules:
  • Man as Crafter of a Household
  • Man as Husband
  • Man as Father
  • Man’s Work, Leisure, and Daily Life in the Home
Each module has:
  • a pre-recorded lecture (viewable at one’s own schedule)
  • a worksheet for formulating resolutions and a concrete personal plan
Each student can:
  • access my live online classroom at various hours throughout the four weeks for questions and discussion
  • email me questions to which I will respond directly by email
This course is designed for:
  • husbands and fathers, young and not so young
  • men preparing for marriage
  • other men who seek to understand better their vocation to fatherhood, through considering fatherhood in its most obvious instance
  • men’s groups, Bible Studies, Exodus 90, marriage prep groups, etc.

What To Do?

Facing an Anti-Family Economy

Economic demands often work against your being a man in your household. There is a plan for manhood you can discover and execute starting at home.

Responding to the Dominant Culture

Strong cultural pressures both pull you away from home and invade your life there. You can take responsibility and thrive.

Overcoming the Feeling of Powerlessness

Confused and isolated, sometimes you don’t know where to turn. You can become the man you know you can be.

Featured Posts:

Cherishing Your Spouse in Your Children

Cherishing Your Spouse in Your Children

“Goodbye Aeneas. Cherish our love in the son it gave us.” Virgil, The Aeneid This stunningly powerful goodbye between spouses says so much. A son, it says, was ‘given’ to a couple by the love they bore one another. Love between spouses is already itself a gift. That...

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Men in Quarantine: 3 Ideas for Rediscovering Marriage

Men in Quarantine: 3 Ideas for Rediscovering Marriage

“What we share now is this home of ours.” “So, my dear, we must recognize what God has assigned to each of us, and try our hardest to carry through our respective responsibilities.” Xenophon, The Estate Manager Marriage is often an exercise in recognizing the gift in...

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A Husband: Responsible for the Household

A Husband: Responsible for the Household

Ischomachus’s wife: “My mother told me that my job was to be responsible.” Ischomachus: “My father gave me the same advice.” Xenophon, The Estate Manager One casualty of the decline of the household is that men and women don’t see their role in it as central to their...

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Useless Houses

Useless Houses

“Well then, Critobulus,” said Socrates, “what if I demonstrate that, in the first place, some people spend a lot of money on building useless houses, whereas others spend far less and build perfectly adequate houses?” Xenophon, The Estate Manager I wonder what...

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The Goal in Raising Children

The Goal in Raising Children

“Man lives by reason, which can attain to prudence only after long experience, so that children need to be instructed by their parents who are experienced.” Thomas Aquinas, Summa contra gentiles There are various ways to understand the ‘goal’ in raising children. In...

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The Courage to Be a Man

The Courage to Be a Man

“The courage of men is to command, so that no fear cause them to fail to order what should be done...” Thomas Aquinas, Commentary on Aristotle’s Politics To order what should be done. This is a rich and challenging notion. Aristotle and Aquinas are talking...

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The Joy of Birth-days

The Joy of Birth-days

It is good to exist. Thomas Aquinas It is noteworthy that the birth of a child is pretty much always a painful experience—especially for the mother. Surely it is a trying experience for the child too. Yet when things go well a child comes forth into the world....

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Focusing on Household for the Common Good

Focusing on Household for the Common Good

Now it is best that there should be a public and proper care for such [moral] matters; but if they are neglected by the community it would seem right for each man to help his children and friends towards virtue, and that they should have the power, or at least the...

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Being Prepared in These Times

Being Prepared in These Times

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” Benjamin Franklin One cannot but notice a growing sense of concern and even anxiety about the future. Are we in for serious disruptions of the social order, and should we be doing something to prepare? The fact is...

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A Woman’s Courage in Childbearing

A Woman’s Courage in Childbearing

“the courage… of a man and of a woman, are not…the same.” Aristotle, Politics Not many nights ago, my wife shared something remarkable with me. Here is basically what she said: In battle, or other such dramatic circumstances, a man might face the possibility of death,...

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Man of the Household: A New Online Course

Man of the Household: A New Online Course

It would seem right for each man to help his children...towards virtue... Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics Many of us married men feel deep within that we can and should be better husbands and fathers. And we are probably right. We can be a better man of the household....

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Woman in the Home: Crafting Life Each Day

Woman in the Home: Crafting Life Each Day

“These coppers, big and little, these brooms and clouts and brushes, were tools; and with them one made, not shoes or cabinet-work, but life itself. One made a climate within a climate; one made the days,--the complexion, the special flavor, the special happiness of...

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Grateful for the Time: A Retrospect on My Lockdown

Grateful for the Time: A Retrospect on My Lockdown

“…and this will be realized in their living together…” Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics For many of us the external constraint to remain at home has come to an end. A retrospective glance is perhaps in order. For a moment I am going to abstract from the surrounding...

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A Father, and Choosing a Spouse

A Father, and Choosing a Spouse

“Reason my son Should choose himself a wife, but as good reason The father, all whose joy is nothing else But fair posterity, should hold some counsel In such a business.” Shakespeare, A Winter’s Tale [Polixenes, King of Bohemia, to his son.] How does one choose a...

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Cherishing Your Spouse in Your Children

Cherishing Your Spouse in Your Children

“Goodbye Aeneas. Cherish our love in the son it gave us.” Virgil, The Aeneid This stunningly powerful goodbye between spouses says so much. A son, it says, was ‘given’ to a couple by the love they bore one another. Love between spouses is already itself a gift. That...

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