It is perhaps the most important thing I ask someone I love. In a sense, nothing else matters. “Show me, you whom my soul loves, where you graze your flock, where you rest at midday.” (Song of Songs 1:7) Wherever that is, so there will I live. With you.

This brings to mind the very young, from whose simple desires we can learn much. Often, we see in them something we need to rediscover about ourselves. When they are together consistently and reliably with those they love, they are happy.

Yet being ‘together’ as human persons is more than just being in physical presence—though it does require and begin there. The two main activities of human life are work and leisure. The richer works and leisures are precisely those that most lend themselves to sharing, to dwelling together richly with those we love.

It is this a person should first taste in the home. And for many of us it is not just the first taste; it is an ongoing taste, even if now in a different home, one still very much tied to the original. Life happens here. Or in any case, it is ours to see that it does, every day. Most of all for their sake. That they might know what real life is, and what it is they should seek.

Thomas Aquinas invokes the amazing line from the Song of Songs in commenting on a particular interchange that really happened, that takes us to the center of the human drama.

Question: “What do you seek?”
Answer: “Where do you live?”
Response: “Come and see.”

I seek to discover where you live, so that I might join you. Where do you graze your flock, and then rest? It is this I must know. Please.

“Ah, but of course! Now that you have asked! Come and see. Please.”           ~ ~ ~

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John Cuddeback

Husband, father, and professor of Philosophy. LifeCraft springs from one conviction: there is an ancient wisdom about how to live the good life in our homes, with our families; and it is worth our time to hearken to it. Let’s rediscover it together. Learn more.