Though I love autumn and the fall of leaves, at the same time something in me rebels. Even as I think, “I don’t want to miss their turning,” part of me just wants it to be over. Somehow, like life itself, autumn in its beauty and drama can be just too much. But maybe I need to learn something from the leaves.

Hilaire Belloc often puts to words sentiments I had not realized I was feeling. “At this peculiar time, this week (or moment) of the year, the desires which if they do not prove at least demand—perhaps remember—our destiny, come strongest. They are proper to the time of autumn, and all men feel them.” It is consoling to think that others too feel such desires—especially since these desires can bring with them fear, and loneliness.

From a philosophical viewpoint, Belloc’s reasoning is sound, and even consoling. Such profound yearning in our heart really does demand that there be something that corresponds to it in reality. A desire so strong, so all-encompassing, so enduring is truly a remarkable thing; it stands out, or rather makes us stand out in dramatic distinction from everything else in the world around us.

It can also be quite painful because such desire has a strong element of not-now, not-yet; it seems to highlight what-it-is-not-there in our life even as it points to something that can be there.

And so the leaves change color, fade, and drop; this, as we go about our way, feeling that their drama of fruition and beauty intertwined with weakness and dying is very much our drama too. We strange mortals—doomed to die yet called to life. Life and death are locked in a struggle, never the one without the other.

But lo, is this struggle between life and death not in fact a dance? A dance of lovers. Well-choreographed by the one who invites us into it. Never forcing, always offering; and encouraging; even pleading. And most importantly leading. If we will but follow.

And so the leaves “sidle on their going downward, hesitating in that which is not void to them, and touching at last so imperceptibly the earth with which they are to mingle, that the gesture is much gentler than a salutation, and even more discreet than a discreet caress.” In their very falling, certainly no free-fall, the leaves—though it might not seem so–are gently guided (even caressed?) to where they belong and can come to rest.

What a gift it is this time of year to realize how much we have in common with the leaves. ~ ~ ~

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