There is nothing quite like the silence that comes over the room at the close of the final sentence. For a brief yet timeless stretch we are all there together, highly aware of one another but in wonderful solitude. Then, the conversation begins.
The power of reading aloud in the home—whether just two spouses or friends, or with family or guests—is an astounding gift we can rediscover. Much more than just a nice pastime, it is a basic enactment of who we are and what we seek in our homelife.
Especially today, it can stand up to the potent centrifugal forces pulling us away from the heart of life, in the center of our home. This is not simply a bedtime story for children, as wonderful as those are. This uniquely engages all of us, and as such is more an expression of who we are.
Does this sound dramatic? The steady evisceration of life at the hearth and heart of our home sets the dramatic context. It is ours to determine what to do. We can be pro-active by turning to what it is right at hand, even if it takes some intentional arranging.
But is this really one of the basic forms of shared life? What about all those throughout history who couldn’t read or didn’t have the books?
They, I suggest, of necessity became story-tellers in their own right, something that for us is more remote and therefore more difficult. I do not rule out recovering that art too. But here I focus on what is more accessible and serves a similar role in our life. Besides, turning to the stories and essays of masters can provide a uniquely artistic, beautiful, and viewpoint-expanding experience.
Getting started need not be daunting. Listening to audio recordings has been a great gift in our own household and can function either as a change of pace or a helpful introduction to the experience of shared listening. [For this reason, we are now making and sharing recordings of some of our own favorites.]
Is it really worth the effort to do this as opposed to watching a film together? I do not question the merits of a good movie-watching. I do suggest that there is something unique, prior, and indeed irreplaceable in shared listening. Consider again the image with which I opened: the moment the last sentence is read, or heard. My own experience of this has been uniform and clear though hard to capture in words. At the end of listening to a story or essay questions immediately arise. How did this strike you? What did you see when you heard that? And so on. Somehow reflecting and sharing our thoughts seems to follow more naturally than when a movie ends.
Is it that our attention has not been focused on a screen and so our eyes and thus consciousness remain more engaged with one another? Is it that we have had to exercise our own imagination and so are simply more engaged as a whole person and have more to share? Good questions. What I am sure of is that I have seen a significant difference in the effect of reading/listening aloud together, one that brings to light what seems to me the best reason to do it in our homes, or wherever we can.
Reading aloud is a unique way to live together precisely as persons. We are rational creatures whose very existence is itself a story, and indeed a shared story. Somehow listening together we feel this on a gut level, and we are powerfully reminded that we very much in this together. ~ ~ ~
LISTEN to THIS SHORT STORY, a perfect winter read-aloud by Belloc! We now have a selection of stories and essays for immediate download and listening! We will be bringing out weekly additions from a variety of genres to enrich your reading/listening aloud wherever you are.
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Greetings from Clear Creek, OK. May God reward you, Dr. Cuddeback, for the generous gift of recordings! I look forward to listening and am passing them forward to friends. Pax.
Sending greetings and thanks back to you, Maria!
Blessings to you and Sophia in all your endeavors ! I enjoy your publications and often pass them on to family members and friends. You are in my daily prayers! May God be with you always! Dawn Waehler
Thank you so very much, Dawn! We join you in prayer.
Dr. Cuddeback, Thanks so much for bringing the custom of reading aloud back! I’ve always loved reading, but reading aloud is especially nice!! I’d give anything to read aloud for my son & his family, but they’re 2,000 mi away. Maybe I could record something & send it to them???
I hope you do record something–it could get something started for them, and they might really enjoy hearing your voice!
When I downsized 3 years ago, I found forgotten cassette tape recordings I’d made in the 60’s of dinner conversations at my grandparents’ home – all the aunts, uncles, cousins. All deceased now, except the little cousins who are now pushing 80. Precious recordings. I did have to buy a used cassette recorder to play them. So consider the technology – but just do it for the joy today! Their Easter gift??
This reading aloud to each other was what I thrived on as a child, and that included our family reading daily meditations, Scripture, and prayer together just before bedtime. It’s what I missed the most in my marriage. From my vantage point of 50+ years later, I truly wish I had tried harder to make it part of my marriage instead of the 11:00PM news.
Thank you for sharing, Helen. We all have things we wish had done otherwise. At least we can share with others our experience and try to help them in any way we can.