The Household

Be fulfilled in your household.

Cultural pressures and an anti-family economy make us uncertain of how to be a good man or woman in our household. We can feel frustrated and paralyzed. Seeking the reality of manhood and womanhood requires that we find the confidence to live out the gift of who we are in our household.

Facing an Anti-Family Economy

Economic demands often work against your being a man or woman in your household. There is a plan for manhood and womanhood that you can discover and execute, starting at home.

Responding to the Dominant Culture

Strong cultural pressures both pull you away from home and invade your life there. You can take responsibility and thrive.

Overcoming the Feeling of Powerlessness

Confused and isolated, sometimes you don’t know where to turn. You can become the man or woman you know you can be.

What can I do?

STEP 1: Start by reading Reclaiming the Household.

Then dive deep into the gifts of household life by taking Man of the Household (see below for more details) or Woman of the Household.

Free Online Course:

Man of the Household 

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Why take this course:

As natural as it is, being man of the household does not come naturally, especially today. We need to be intentional and take specific steps to become the man we want to be. The course goal is this: to be the man of my household, a true husband and father, taking first responsibility for crafting the good life in my home, and so fulfilling what my nature calls me to, my heart longs for, and my loved ones need and deserve.

To whatever extent we become that man, it is its own reward. Yet also our wife, our children, our friends, and all our loved ones will be grateful and reap the fruits of our efforts. For generations to come.

If you are interested, I would love for you to join me in this course.

This course has four modules:
  • Man as Crafter of a Household
  • Man as Husband
  • Man as Father
  • Man’s Work, Leisure, and Daily Life in the Home
Each module has:
  • a pre-recorded lecture (viewable at one’s own schedule)
  • a worksheet for formulating resolutions and a concrete personal plan
Each student can:
  • participate in online discussion forums with me and other LifeCraft members
  • email me questions to which I will respond directly by email
This course is designed for:
  • husbands and fathers, young and not so young
  • men preparing for marriage
  • other men who seek to understand better their vocation to fatherhood, through considering fatherhood in its most obvious instance
  • men’s groups, Bible Studies, Exodus 90, marriage prep groups, etc.

STEP 2: Explore the importance of household as a physical space with the HomeArchitecture series.

STEP 3: Take concrete steps to enrich the lives of those in your household, starting at the dinner table. Watch the Dinner at Home mini-series for ideas on setting manners and having good, meaningful conversations.

STEP 4: If you can, make a hearth in your home. If you can’t, how about a bonfire? Read about the importance of hearths and fires: Making the Times that Matter, We Need More Fires, A Fire in the Hearth, and Make a Fire Today.

STEP 5: See below for featured Wednesday Quotes that address the theme of household.

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Featured Posts:

The Secret of the Marriage Bed

The Secret of the Marriage Bed

Penelope: “If really he is Odysseus, truly home, beyond all doubt we two shall know each other …. There are secret signs we know, we two.” … Odysseus: “There is our pact and pledge, our secret sign, built into that bed—my handiwork and no one else’s! An old trunk of...

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Care for a Wife’s Health

Care for a Wife’s Health

“Seeing, then, that such care is lavished on the body’s food, surely every care should be taken on behalf of our own children’s mother and nurse, in whom is implanted the seed from which there springs a living soul.” Aristotle, Economics Aristotle is reflecting upon...

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A Husband in Winter

A Husband in Winter

“At the very moment when the vine has shed Its latest leaves and the cold north wind has shaken The glory from the woods, at that same moment The lively husbandman projects his thoughts Into the coming year…” Virgil, The Georgics, II, 403-406 A husband in a family is...

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To Be or Not To Be, a Craftsman

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A Time in Life for Pruning, Now

A Time in Life for Pruning, Now

Before she comes, prune the vines. It is better this way. Hesiod, Works and Days The other day my wife and I were pruning our peach trees. According to Hesiod we were late—for the star Arcturus (the ‘she’ in the quotation) appears at the end of February. As Hesiod...

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When a Man Proposes

When a Man Proposes

“...for a common life is above all things natural to the female and to the male.” Aristotle, Oeconomica Even as marriage between a man and a woman is undermined, ridiculed, or simply set aside, we naturally feel the power and poignancy of a man proposing to a woman....

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Having a Homely House in Ugly Times

Having a Homely House in Ugly Times

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The Economics of Splitting Wood by Hand

The Economics of Splitting Wood by Hand

*This is a reposting of the first piece I ever posted online, almost exactly eight years ago, at Front Porch Republic. It has remained one of the most popular I’ve posted. Also, here is short video sharing my joy in splitting wood. Hilaire Belloc once wrote that he...

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Discord Today and the Failure of Authority

Discord Today and the Failure of Authority

The specialty of rule hath been neglected, And look how many Grecian tents do stand Hollow upon this plain, so many hollow factions ... Take but degree away, untune that string, And hark what discord follows. Each thing meets In mere oppugnancy. Shakespeare, Ulysses,...

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Woman in the Home: Making Life Each Day

Woman in the Home: Making Life Each Day

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A Year to Turn to the Household

A Year to Turn to the Household

Now it is best that there should be a public and proper care for such matters; but if they are neglected by the community it would seem right for each man to help his children and friends toward virtue... Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics Being docile to reality means...

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A Plan for Winter: Receive the Gift of Slowdown

A Plan for Winter: Receive the Gift of Slowdown

“We’ve gotten stuck in the summer mode, in chronic summer... In fall and winter we should move into a new mode, a contractive and restorative mode... like coming home at the end of the day... with a sense of settling, of slowing down, of peace, of belonging, of...

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The Primacy of Contemplation

The Primacy of Contemplation

“Everything human is an overflow from contemplation... We so rarely grant contemplation its proper place. Yet it cannot overflow unless it has this place. Nevertheless, everything derives from its fulness...” Pierre T. Dehau, O.P. The waters of reality run deep....

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Certain Things in Uncertain Times

Certain Things in Uncertain Times

“First house and wife and an ox for the plough.” Hesiod, Works and Days I think I am not alone in feeling unsettled these days. I experience a subtle, low-grade but constant stress, a sense of foreboding that tends toward fear. Where are things going in our nation and...

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When Medicine Becomes a Business

When Medicine Becomes a Business

“And it belongs to...the medical art to produce health, not to make money. Nevertheless, some men turn every art into a means of money-making, as if this is the end.” Aristotle, Politics The state of medical practice in our country and in the world has been brought...

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